First of all, what’s needed is not an honest conversation about race, but an honest conversation about racism, white supremacy, the inhuman treatment of others, white violence and aggression. If you had a friend who was in a physically abusive relationship, would you encourage that person to remain in the abusive household and have “an honest conversation about fists” with their attacker?
Would you believe that passing a law prohibiting hitting another person is all that’s required to stop the hitting? Courts institute orders of protection to keep the parties separated in order to stop the violence, harrassment, stalking, etc.
You cannot have an honest conversation about race in America unless you accept that, as impractical as it may sound, separation of one party from an attacker in an abusive relationship is a solution worthy of consideration.